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Thursday, November 18, 2010

Call me

I wrote something for television a long time ago but, although it’s a pretty good concept, it never got past the approval stage – meaning, it got accepted each time but never went further. Anyway, it was all about dilemmas that we sometimes face in our lives, when it’s hard to decide what to do because, in the two options that are available, a very thin line separates the right from wrong. To make the idea more engaging, I thought it may be best to put viewers in the shoes of the characters and have them not just sit in judgement over the characters’ choices but to also have to make that choice themselves. Because it’s always easier to make a value judgement from the outside, and wonder why someone did what they did, than it is to be in the thick of things and know why.

While watching certain situations in films, I’ve often wondered how I’d behave under the same circumstances and whether my own decision would be any different from that of the character/s on screen. During the whole 9/11 attack, I clearly remember wondering how it’d feel like to be on the plane, knowing I was going to die in the next few minutes. Like the people on board at the time did, I remember wondering about who I’d make the last frantic call to.

Funnily, I was asked precisely this question a few days ago. I was asked to imagine myself in a hypothetical situation wherein I know I am going to die in a few minutes. I’m allowed to make just one call to one person. Who is the one person, in this whole wide world, that I’ll want to call and talk to?

To those who’re attached and in relationships, the answer to the question should be relatively easy. A lot of such people are likely to pick their partners. Some of those who have kids could pick a child over their partner. But, I’m not sure how it is for people like myself…should it be simpler? Tougher? I don’t know.

I don’t have an immediate family and, so, fortunately or otherwise, that decision is taken away from me. Among the extended family, I could choose to call one of two-three people but, if I have to be honest to myself, that’d be more because, although I’m fond of them and they of me, it’d be more like an obligation. Among the few friends that I have, again, I could pick one of two or three but it’d still be more to entrust them with a responsibility or two.

So, it shouldn’t have been an easy question for me to answer. But, that’s the strange, and scary, part…the answer came to me instantly. Like I said to someone on FB today, sometimes, it’s a curse to know the answer, especially when it comes to you so bloody quickly.

Usually, answers help you feel free and liberated. This one feels like a curse because, in this case, the answer is the problem! :-)

But, that’s just me. Do you know who you are going to call?


Blogger Ricercar said...

i had to answer a similar question recently. i was at bereavement training for a volunteer service i work with. they gave us 5 blank paper pices and asked us to write names of 5 people in our lives. then we had to choose to give up two (subsequently 2 more were taken away without our choice). but even at that hypothetical level, it is so scary to hear that voice from your subconscious, is it not? so scary?

perhaps knowingly or un-knowingly, purposely or by accident, we are so blind to what is in our sub conscious mind, yet so driven by it!

a few days ago i was trying to do these positive thinking exercises. i spent the whole morning on them and all day i was peaceful and worked hard and was pelasant to everyone etc ...

very pleased with myself, when i went down for a break, i found myself humming a song which told me suddenly that in my sub conscious mind i had been thinking all day what i thought i had conquered

5:48 pm  
Blogger Ricercar said...

oh i'm sorry - that was such a weird and long comment. got carried away.

short answer, yes i know exactly what you mean by "scary"


5:49 pm  
Blogger GhostOfTomJoad said...

Really, I'm in a bit of a tizzy about it.

I don't whether you mean 'scary' in the same way but it's scary for me because, in a way, it means that the choice was made for me and that I played no part in it.

Like you said, must be the damned subconscious! :-)

Weird comment? Not in the least!

7:36 pm  
Blogger Ricercar said...

i'm guessing i meant scary in the same way. the helplessness, choicelessness, and maybe a bit of the pointlessness of the choice :-)

ps: are you on FB? add me!

10:09 pm  
Blogger backpacker said...


8:52 am  
Blogger backpacker said...

ps - why aren't you on my fb?

on the brighter side, you've beaten me by a mile on the blogging game. :-)

8:54 am  
Blogger Sonia said...

i hope that whoever this person is, you're in touch with them NOW rather than wait for that last minute to tell your goodbyes or whatever it is you want to say.

1:13 pm  
Blogger GhostOfTomJoad said...

RICERCAR: Okay, same page, then! ;-)

Okay, will look you up on FB.

MADPACKER: Why am I not on your FB? Er, umm...because I've been told I'm a disgrace to the FB community :-) I'm not on it all that much. Having said that, I've been trying to change that a wee bit.

And, how does one get on to your FB?

SONIA: It's so touching to see you still have such a high opinion of me :-)

People one has broken off with don't qualify for the call, smartass!

6:02 pm  
Blogger Ricercar said...

great :-)

you need to look for "rice"!

9:14 pm  
Blogger backpacker said...

Ok, you see the email address my blog indicates for me? Just use that and find me!

8:46 am  
Blogger Maia said...

Wow! Does sound like a big deal :)

I agree with Sonia...maybe you should just let this person know and let them feel flattered :)

12:13 pm  
Blogger GhostOfTomJoad said...

RICERCAR: Er, looked for "rice" and there're way too many! Can't tell :-)

MADPACKER: For some strange reason, I can't seem to add you. I'll send you a mail with my email address, see if it works.

MAIA: I don't know about the big deal but what am I supposed to TELL this person? :-)

8:31 pm  

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